Couples

Biblical principles for a successful marriage

Great marriages are made. They are based on principles and not just emotions. A principle is a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief, behavior or chain of reasoning. So what are the principles great  marriages are built on? What one word best describes your marriage?

Here are some Bible principles on which you can base your marriage no matter its age or status.

Principle 1

Marriage is honourable.

Hebrews 13:4 (Voice) Hold marriage in high esteem, all of you…. This applies to not just everything about marriage but to everyone’s marriage. You are not excluded from a successful marriage nor is it out of reach. Yes, success in marriage looks different for every one of us, but whatever it means for you, the path to it involves placing the right value on your marriage. Marriage is honourable or precious, valuable, costly, of great price, especially dear or esteemed worthy. Just like you will handle anything valuable and precious with great care, so our marriages must be handled with care. We should not be indifferent; but hold our marriage and therefore spouses in high esteem.

Principle 2

I call this the flesh=trouble principle.

1 Corinthians 7:28 (NKJV Strong’s,)

28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.1 Corinthians 7:28 (MSG)

28 But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.

Here the Bible talks about trouble in the flesh for those who marry. First thing to note is this doesn’t say anything about those who marry people who ae not supposedly their “soulmate” it’s just people who marry, period. Marriage brings with it certain challenges or stresses and the more carnal or in the flesh you are the more the stress and challenges. Stress is defined in physics as force per unit area or in English, exerting a high force in a small area. The area is the space the two of you share, so to reduce stress in your marriage you need to look at reducing the forces of the flesh. Walk in the spirit at home, remember your Ps and Qs, give your spouse the sort of customer service you expect to receive.

In the world there is pressure but in Jesus we can have peace, lay hold of that peace in your home.

Principle 3

Serve by following

John 12:26 (MSG)

26 “If any of you wants to serve me, then follow me. Then you’ll be where I am, ready to serve at a moment’s notice. The Father will honor and reward anyone who serves me.

Jesus gave an insight into intimacy here. Do you want to be together with your spouse, ready to serve at a moment’s notice or in other words anticipate their needs? Then follow. What does that mean for us as couples? It means you are  a fan, no actually a super fan of your spouse, or look at your marriage as a course you are enrolled on and the only modules on offer are Jim 101, Jim 102 etc.(or whatever your spouse’s name is). A great marriage is a union of two servants, and the best servants are those who are there with you and can anticipate your needs. That’s romance.

There are many truths in God’s word that when not just acknowledged but practised will exempt our marriages from the misery and failure the devil will like it to be. What is a successful marriage? YOURS!